It may be tempting to compare your life experience to others, especially those who seem to have more than you in their personal life. However, comparing yourself to others can be detrimental to your mental and emotional health. Comparing yourself with others will only make you feel insecure because you might subconsciously think that what’s lacking in one person is made up by another. To put your value into perspective, you need to first understand what truly defines value. For example, money and material possessions are not always an indicator of worth. Similarly, someone with a loving family at home who values their time is also valuable.
You can help yourself by establishing your own core beliefs based on the following factors.
What is Value to You?
To answer this, you need to first ask yourself some questions about yourself. Once you’ve defined your values, you can then use them as a guideline for how you want to live your life. For example, are you the type of person who values simplicity or a busy life with limited time for self-care? A healthy diet and regular exercise are also important aspects of your personal value system. Next, you can also identify key areas of your daily life that are of value to others. For example, while a busy schedule may not be important to you, it could be extremely important to someone else. Hence, it’s important to understand the needs of others, especially when you help someone else.
Knowing What’s Important to You
Before you can put your value into perspective, you first need to understand what is important to you. This can be done by identifying your core values and creating a list of these values. Next, write what you know about your values so that you can be more intentional about them in your life. It may be helpful to journal about your values to help you identify what really matters most to you. Once you know what’s important to you, you can then identify the additional things that are important to others. For example, you may know that your significant other values family time, but you may also know that your best friend values traveling. Hence, you can use these insights to help you better understand others and their values.
Establish Your Unique Strengths
Next, look at your unique strengths and use them to establish your personal value system. For example, if you identify being a people person as a key value, then you can choose to emphasize or strengthen this quality in your life. The same goes for weaknesses – you can choose to strengthen these qualities and learn to compensate for them with creativity. Next, you can also identify other qualities that you don’t have, but that are important to others. For example, if your significant other values creativity, you can identify other talents that are not necessarily unique to you but are still of value to your relationship.
Understand Your Weaknesses
Another crucial step to putting your value in perspective is to understand your weaknesses and negative beliefs. As human beings, we are all flawed and imperfect. We are all going to have weaknesses, and you need to accept this. You can’t try to hide your flaws, but you can use them as a reminder to be more considerate. For example, if you identify being unforgiving as a weakness, you can use this to be more compassionate towards others. Hence, you can use your weaknesses to better your life and the lives of others around you.
Plan for the Future Where You Want to Go
Next, you need to take a step back and plan for future career decisions. After all, you can’t control the future, but you can control the decisions you make today. Hence, you can use this opportunity to set goals for your life based on your personal value system. For example, if you identify from previous roles that being a people person is a key value, you can set a goal to build relationships with others. Similarly, if you identify simplicity as a key value, you can set a goal to live a more simple and disciplined life.
When you compare yourself to others, you might feel insecure because you might subconsciously think that what’s lacking in one person is made up by another. However, comparing yourself to others can be detrimental to your mental and emotional health. Instead of comparing yourself to others, you can use this article to help you put your value in perspective by identifying key aspects of your life that are of value to others.